Everyone in the world has dreams and goals they want to accomplish. But not everyone successfully gets what they want. It’s not a question of privilege or talent. It’s all about your mindset and doing what it takes to get there. Goals are dreams with deadlines, but a goal without a plan is just a wish. In this article, I will help you to achieve any goal you set your mind on.
The contents of this article are written from my own experience of constantly achieving my goals, from learning from my mentors, and learning from my wins and my failures. These are the steps that I take when I have a dream/goal I want to achieve….
1.) What is your dream? Get specific and write them down.
No successful person has ever dreamed and only kept it to themselves. They took action, and it all started with writing them down. You can dream big or you can dream small, the important part is that you know what you want to go after.
Get specific with your goal. You can’t just write: “I want to be successful.” What do you want to be successful for? Let’s say you’re a writer and your big dream is to be a famous writer. An example for a specific goal would be: “I want to publish my own non-fiction novel.” The more specific you are, the better.
2.) Make sure the goal is meaningful.
When you come up with a goal, I hope that you write one that is meaningful. If you wanted “to live in a house made of candy”, it would be acceptable if you were 5 years old. Not so much if you’re 30. Find a goal that has a deep rooted meaning for you. Will this goal make you happy? Will it make you a better person? Does it give you your heart’s desire? Do you think it will give you a sense of fulfilment?
Making goals that have a bigger purpose for ourselves will make it more worth it for us to risk it all. When we aim for goals that have little meaning and that are too easy to get, we won’t value them. But when we aim for goals that are meaningful for us, we strive to work hard until we achieve it.
3.) Set your main priorities, and then break it up.
Break your big goal into smaller ones. Let’s call these your “priorities”. Your priorities are your main goals. Then under each goal, determine the steps that need to be taken to achieve it. You have to break down each goal into action steps. Make smaller milestones that you can reach so that you don’t get overwhelmed.
Let’s say your big goal is to be a successful, professional dancer. Your 3 main priorities would be: Improve Dance Training, Create My Unique Dancer Character, and Audition For A Dance Company. Under each priority, you write the steps that need to be taken. Under “Improve Dance Training”, your action steps would be: ( 1 ) Take classes with different studios. ( 2 ) Practice 3 hours every day. ( 3 ) Improve Flexibility and Strength. Under “Create My Unique Dancer Character” would be: ( 1 ) Get a make-over to show my physical assets. ( 2 ) Determine my main look as a dancer. Hair color, dance clothes, etc. ( 3 ) Develop my confidence as a dancer. Under “Audition For A Dance Company” would be: ( 1 ) Look up auditions for different dance companies. ( 2 ) Prepare requirements like headshots, audition dance piece, etc. ( 3 ) Practice 5 hours everyday until audition day.
Break down the big goal into priorities, break down each priority into action steps. It’s as simple as that. And don’t forget to create a deadline for each goal. Making sure that goals are time-bound assures that you will move your ass to make them happen.
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4.) Get into the right mindset
Decision + Belief = Commitment. When you decide to go after a goal and you believe that you will get yourself there, you commit to making it happen. If you drown yourself in fear and self-doubts, then how will you inspire others to believe in you? Don’t chase any goal half-assed. Chase it with hard determination and give it all you’ve got. Because if you know you did everything you could, whether you achieve or fail, you will never regret anything.
To help you release your fears and doubts, use other’s success as inspiration to step up your own game. It always helps to learn about other people’s journey to their dreams. Read about their stories, then walk yourselves to any mirror and tell yourself: If they can do it, so can I.
5.) Don’t be afraid to ask for help.
We can’t always achieve all our goals all on our own. Don’t be afraid to ask help from people. Don’t even be afraid to mention your goals to anyone. You’ll never know which person has the capacity to help you in any of your action steps.
While living in Turkey, I just mentioned to a dance classmate (that I barely even knew) at a studio I used to dance with, “I want to look for a studio that has more difficult choreography.” And she directed me to Dans Fabrika, the best dance studio in Istanbul and in Turkey. Not only did I get the goal of being more challenged in dance, I got recruited into that studio’s official dance team, I got paid to do dance jobs, and even got to win as National Champions for Hiphop in Turkey. More than that, I got more fun friends and a second family in Istanbul. All that and all I did was mention one of my goals to a random stranger from my dance class.
So speak up and share your dreams with others. You’ll never know where it leads you to and what opportunities await you there!
6.) Do not give up.
There will be times that you will make mistakes and you will fail. I should be writing to inspire you about only good things, but I want to be honest. Life is a bitch. Bad things still happen to good people. The fates sometimes decides that there are things that aren’t for us. Or other times, someone up there wants to play with us and make it harder for us to achieve anything.
Take note that mistakes and failures must be viewed as lessons and not an excuse to give up. There’s a saying I adore: “If I succeed, I win. If I fail, I learn.” There is no losing in life unless you decide to give up. Change your mindset and view failing as a chance to learn how NOT to do it. And you will always get up stronger, wiser, and ready to go for another try.
7.) Believe and Visualize.
Perhaps the hardest but most important thing to achieve your goal is to BELIEVE. We are human. We are constantly plagued with doubts and fears. There are negatron people in your life who will always say “you’re not good enough”. If dreamers believed in all the shit that people say and do to STOP them, then we would never have everything we have in this world. All inventors, artists, writers, film makers, all the movers and shakers who contributed great things to our world, all dealt with their doubts and those negatron people. They chose to believe in themselves and the goals they set out to achieve more than the ugly thoughts in their head that say they’re not good enough.
Believe in yourself because you can only count on yourself at the end of the day. With this belief, visualize yourself living the dream, and do it everyday. Start now! Even while writing your goals. When I want something, I get obsessed and think about it night and day, and picture myself living it. And trust me, the day always comes that those images jump from my brain and into real life. When you visualize, you not only create strength for you to keep going on, but you also attract positive energy into your life to eventually live your goal.
Now that you’re equipped with all this, it’s time for you to get your dreaming butts moving. Paulo Coelho said it best when he wrote in The Alchemist: “And when you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it.” Go get em, Neverlanders!
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